With only a week of practice together, our soccer team was thrown into its first game.
To put it simply, we were not ready.
I don’t mean just skill wise – not ready. I mean team wise – not ready.
There was no bond between us. No unity. No camaraderie.
Any athlete will tell you the importance of team bonding and unity.
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2013 Women's Soccer Team: why did I wear glasses |
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Teams that often end up winning in sports are those that work well together.
How were we supposed to win a game together if we couldn’t cooperate?
The tension between us, left the team fragmented into cliques. We were separated by new players, old players and competitiveness.
So going into our first game there was a division amongst us – especially with the EXTREMELY competitive girls.
The intensity they had for the game rubbed some people the wrong way…including me. It felt like everything I did was wrong to them. It didn’t help that my soccer skills were premature.It really didn’t help that before the start of this game the coach decided to put me as forward, when I have always played midfield.
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We played against Thiel College |
So, now the coach expects me to start scoring goals. No pressure!
Don’t get me wrong, I understand why he made me forward, but it didn’t help my case with the competitive girls. Now it was my job to make sure we scored points...
Needless to say, when I stepped out on that field I was full of anxiety.
The first ten minutes were fine, it's just what came after that that wasn't...there was no communication with our team. We weren't talking on the field. Except screaming and
yelling at each other when we did something wrong.
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Teammate Jessie icing her foot |
Not surprisingly, the other team scored a goal.
Frustration set in. We became irritated with each other.
And the other team could see this and used it to their advantage.
Which made one goal become two goals, two goals become five goals ,and five goals become eight goals.
Even though we were losing, I honestly believed we were all working as best as we could during the game.
Well, I guess I was wrong! A teammate of mine, came up to me 20 minutes before the game ended and told me "You need to start getting the ball"(like I don't get the concept of the game).
The combination of the heat, my exhaustion and my sensitive personality made her suggestion come off a bit "bitchy".
I probably would have been more receptive to what she was saying, if I hadn't been running around on that field for almost 90 minutes in the blazing heat.
I understand she is competitive and has this adrenaline for the game...but don't depreciate my role on
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What can I say? I was tired |
the team.
My body was running on zero. All I wanted to do was collapse.
But I kept pushing myself and now she was telling me my effort wasn't good enough.
And If she didn't think I was doing anything before, I was definitely not going to do anything now.
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After the game |
Yes, I know its was petty and childish. At the time I didn't care.
The last 15 minutes I did not run across the field. I just counted down to the mintues when it will all be over.
The time went by quick. The final score was 12-0. As usual we were all irritated with each other and we fragmented back into our cliques.
I guess whoever said that quote was telling the truth: united we stand, dividend we fall.
And boy did we fall.